Monday, June 4, 2012

Au Re-voir

Eric was a remarkable man. I don't have to tell you that. But in this last post, I will tell you a little about what you don't know.

If his words touched your heart, his presence far surpassed them. Anyone who met Eric, felt the strength of the man he was, his fiercely intelligent eyes, listening, grasping, quickly understanding. Gently reflecting and internalizing a trust.

How sensitive Eric was, reading emotions and body movements sometimes better than one could their own. We dare not watch a movie without a shared box of kleenex. And chocolate. He loved dark chocolate, as did I. Our fridge always had at least 5 pounds of chocolate in it. Yes, pounds.

Eric never finished school. At the age of 17, he left home because of an abusive stepfather. Where did he learn to write so well? He taught himself. The poetry came out of nowhere in his later years. When writing, nothing could distract him. He was so focused. I could scream FIRE and he would simply look around and then go back to typing, the words easily flowing despite any interruption. A singular gift.

Blogging encouraged Eric to write more, the feedback from fellow bloggers uplifting even more. He had the highest respect and love for you. He would call me into the computer room and show me what 'she/he' wrote and I could see the tears in his eyes. By leaving a comment, you helped him more than you know. Thank you.

I was fortunate to have spent the last 8 years with this beautiful man. I have not one regret. Just that I miss him so.



Stephanie said...

This is a very touching post, Elizabeth. I do miss his comments very much. He was one of the first to encourage me in starting a blog and helped me along the way with his comments on the blog and I enjoyed his writings very much.

Margie said...

A lovely post, Elizabeth.
Eric was truly a remarkable man!

His comments always brought me much joy and I loved when he visited my blog!

I know you must miss him dearly!

Be well and take care.

Margie x

Seamus Kearney said...

What an uplifting and fitting au revoir for Eric's blog, Elizabeth. I was so sad to hear the news of his passing and I regret that I didn't leave more comments in the last few months, busy as we all are. Eric's visits and comments were such rays of sunshine and I was happy to hear that he got so much out of blogging. I'm happy though to dedicate the first piano piece on my new music blog to him. Thanks, Elizabeth, for your contact here. Bon courage. Our thoughts are with you. Seamus.

Eric Valentine said...

Thank you Stephanie, Margie, and Seamus for your kind comments. They are more meaningful because you enriched Eric's life so much through your friendship.

Seamus...your Sonata is so beautiful. It touched me deeply.


cyclopseven said...

Wonderful post Elizabeth. People are born with skills and talents, yet only small fraction utilized that to the maximum, and I believe Eric is one of them. Thank you for sharing the 'person behind the man' with us. God bless.

Eric Valentine said...

Thank you so much Mahendran....Yes, Eric did some amazing things during his life and I was fortunate to have shared some of it....


Bendigo said...

The days, weeks, months slip by, but the memories are rich, full and rewarding; they will remain so, such was the man.

How fortunate we are that he wrote his own eulogy/legacy in his writings, and musings about life, such a skilled wordsmith, with a heart as big as all outdoors, and a love for life. A thread of pure gold in the rich tapestry that is my life - I am so enriched for having known you Tankie.

swenglishexpat said...

Dear Elizabeth,

I have been out of blogging for 16 months and just returned after having had sad family matters to deal with.

I am so sorry to read about Eric passing away. He was a good blogger friend, and he once even gave me an award!

It has now been some time, but I hope you have coped well and continue to do so despite your loss.

I always think of Eric on his birthday, and I also still have a photograph of you two sitting smiling on a park bench. Now I have even more reason to keep it on my computer.

Thank you for signing off Eric so lovingly.

Anders (swenglishexpat)

Margie said...

Elizabeth, thinking of you!
Hope all is well.
I was thinking of Eric today.
I miss him.


cyclopseven said...

Eric, you are still intact in my mind. And, Elizabeth, you too. Take care. God Bless.